Marriage and Sex after Divorce: Nicole and David Make Sex a Priority and Navigate Sexual Triggers


Nicole and David, both previously divorced, share their experiences in navigating sex in their marriage. How they address sexual triggers from their previous marriages and how to make sex a priority while raising young children.

Nicole and David have been life-long, active members of the LDS church. They were both previously married and sealed in the temple and did everything right in courting their first spouse and maintained appropriate boundaries while dating. However, intimacy was one of the main issues in their first marriage and neither of them wanted to risk that stumbling block in a second marriage. Through many open and honest conversations about expectations while dating each other, they decided they would be compatible in most areas, including intimacy. Over the last seven years of marriage, they have found that to be true. Intimacy is something that has kept them close together during different trials and struggles.

Unfortunately, there are times when struggles or triggers from their first marriages crop up. It may take them a while to identify it but when they do, they are able to draw close together again. One of the greatest things Nicole and David have learned is that they need to discover and learn about their own sexuality in order to be stronger sexual partners in their marriage.

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Do you have a story to share about improving intimacy in your marriage?

I am looking for individuals and couples to interview for the "Improving Intimacy" podcast. Ideally, I would like couples to interview. But I understand scheduling can be difficult especially for those with children, so individuals are welcome to participate. This included those who are currently single/dating.

The ideal couple/individuals are those who are improving but still trying to figure it out, to those who feel they have mastered aspects of their relationship. Willing to be vulnerable, raw and explore the "messy" in the relationship. In other words, you don't have to be a "picture perfect" couple. If you feel your discovery is worth sharing and might help others, you're the right person.

Some topics I'm looking for, those who feel they have:

  1. learned how to navigate your sexual relationship.

  2. used this group to improve their marriage.

  3. learned how to navigate pornography with your spouse.

  4. learned how to navigate pornography with your children.

  5. used masturbation to improve your sexual intimacy.

  6. learned how to discuss sex, pornography and/or masturbation with children.

  7. learned how to make spouse a priority in the child raising years.

  8. overcome sexual trauma, whether that is from abuse, cultural shame, etc...

If there is a topic not listed, which you'd like to share, contact me at

If you are interested in an interview please schedule with me using the linked google calendar.