Reigniting the Flame with Amy and Aaron

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Reigniting the flame....when it has dimmed. Keeping it fresh and fun after decades of marriage and navigating all of the changes that occurs as we age. We had been married around 25 years and our intimate relationship had pretty much ceased to exist. We were happy and had a great relationship but there was almost no sexual intimacy. I decided we were way too young (44) to be in a sexless marriage and took steps to change it:

  1. Dialogue

  2. Subscription boxes

  3. Podcasts

  4. Joined intimacy groups on line

  5. Educated ourselves

  6. went to the doctor

  7. hormone treatment (both of us)

  8. weight loss (both of us)

  9. got vulnerable and real

  10. 30 day sex challenge

  11. scheduled sex daily

  12. we’ve have had sex 2x a day for about a year now and are more emotionally connected than ever. Navigating life is easier and we are so much more open, honest and vulnerable.

Continue the improving intimacy discussion by joining the Improving Intimacy Facebook group.

Do you have a story to share about improving intimacy in your marriage?

I am looking for individuals and couples to interview for the "Improving Intimacy" podcast. Ideally, I would like couples to interview. But I understand scheduling can be difficult especially for those with children, so individuals are welcome to participate. This included those who are currently single/dating.

The ideal couple/individuals are those who are improving but still trying to figure it out, to those who feel they have mastered aspects of their relationship. Willing to be vulnerable, raw and explore the "messy" in the relationship. In other words, you don't have to be a "picture perfect" couple. If you feel your discovery is worth sharing and might help others, you're the right person.

Some topics I'm looking for, those who feel they have:

  1. learned how to navigate your sexual relationship.

  2. used this group to improve their marriage.

  3. learned how to navigate pornography with your spouse.

  4. learned how to navigate pornography with your children.

  5. used masturbation to improve your sexual intimacy.

  6. learned how to discuss sex, pornography and/or masturbation with children.

  7. learned how to make spouse a priority in the child raising years.

  8. overcome sexual trauma, whether that is from abuse, cultural shame, etc...

If there is a topic not listed, which you'd like to share, contact me at

If you are interested in an interview please schedule with me using the linked google calendar.